You are safe to feel your feelings here.

Be kind to yourself.

A note to visitors:

This page shares advice and words of comfort I’ve gathered during my own journey with grief.

Content may be triggering.

Reader,

Regardless of how long it’s been since I first published this support page, if you are visiting this page because you lost a pet, I need you to know this is coming directly from my heart today:

I am so sorry for your loss.

Be kind to your mind and patient with your heart. There is no set timeline for grief. If you are anything like me, you will never stop grieving. You will, however, grow stronger every day. You’ll find that carrying that grief gets easier some days, but other days, you could find that grief too heavy to lift out of bed.

It’s not linear, and it’s not easy, but your beloved fur friend would want you to keep going. They may not have been there for all of your life, but you were there for the entirety of theirs.

Deep breaths and please don’t hold your feelings back from this page. They need to breathe too.

Love,

Kayla

The Love They Left With You

My narration on this video is an adaptation of Aaron Freeman’s “Eulogy from a Physicist.”

The Gift of Rest

“Euthanasia is a decision that will echo in your mind long after the event. This talk explains that echo and why it occurs. Sarah has worked as an emergency doctor throughout her veterinary career. She feels her most important task as an emergency doctor is translating the medical diagnosis and clinical situation into a more understandable context for the family so they can make decisions feeling empowered instead of overwhelmed.” - YouTube Description

Bite-Size Words of Support

“Cancer didn’t win. Arya took it out at the same time.”

— @aaronkoehlinger (IG Commenter)

“All the grief you're feeling now is all the love HE felt when he was with you.”

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“Arya was a cat of character and it was an honour and a pleasure to get to know her through your eyes.”

— @willowbranch56 (IG Commenter)

“The pain you feel is a testament to the strength of your love for him.”

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Gizmo’s Legacy

Meet the cat who started it all. Never before had I met a cat who gave me such inspiration to share joy. Gizmo’s shenanigans were shared under the original name of our channel, “Gizmo’s Best Life,” and caught global attention. More than that, though, Gizmo was my light. He was the reason for my smile on some of my darkest days.

He helped my entire family heal from the untimely passing of our kitten, Waffles, whom we had lost earlier that year to wet FIP. Gizmo snuggled with everyone. He’d never met a stranger. I swear, every day when he would wake up, he would ask himself, “How can I make them smile today?” And he would chase the day from there.

I held my breath for the first two years of Gizmo’s life, afraid to let my guard down after losing Waffles so young. After celebrating Gizmo’s second birthday in August 2023, I finally breathed a sigh of relief, knowing he had passed the age of vulnerability. After that, we had two months of blissful joy before lightning struck a second time.

At the beginning of October that same year, Gizmo was diagnosed with stage four acute kidney failure and those three cursed letters: FIP. We battled death the entire month. We secured the medicine needed for his treatment. I learned to give him subcutaneous fluids at home for his comfort. The Gizmo community raised thousands to help us with his skyrocketing hospital bills. I offered him whatever food he could eat, but it wasn’t enough.

On November 1, 2023, Gizmo passed away at home in my arms with my husband at his side and with Bruce, Floki, and Luna watching from a close distance. I did not handle his loss well those first few months without him. Not at all. However, over the last year, I have collected the wisdom gifted to me while at my lowest. You will find that wisdom along with many gorgeous art tributes and comforting words on this page.

More Encouragement

““I study astrophysics & quantum mechanics so I take great comfort in knowing through my studies that through the laws of thermodynamics that everything that he was made of still exists, it’s just in different form now.”

— Lee_Lou02 (Reddit)

“Remember that feelings are visitors that give us information. That’s it. Let them visit, listen to what information they have to offer, and let them go. Put the feelings into something (writing, journaling, burning, dancing) if you must, but don’t hold on to them.”

— Milo_Moody (Reddit)

“It’s a contract we all sign with them, never knowing how long we are agreeing to... we exchange love and comfort, building wonderful memories that someday will be all that remains of the ones we love.”

— NavarroDusty (IG)

Don’t you EVER let anyone make you feel guilty for having a phone full of pet pictures and videos. You will be grateful for every one of them when their time comes.

— Kayla, The Pawtistics